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Personality flaws

I love my personality type on the Myers & Briggs 16 personality types. I’m an INTP and it describes me to a T. I am totally that type. I am absent-minded, laid back, reserved and a abstract thinker. I wonder if people read theirs and looks at the weakness and think ‘yeah those are my weaknesses’ or do they deny that part? I don’t, man, those are my weaknesses. We all have our flaws and those are mine.

Here they are from the site: I’ll comment in bold

  • Very Private and Withdrawn – While INTPs’ intellectualism yields many insights into their surroundings, their surroundings are ironically considered an intrusion on their thoughts. This is especially true with people – INTPs are quite shy in social settings. More complicated situations such as parties exacerbate this, but even close friends struggle to get into INTPs’ hearts and minds. –Is this a weakness? I don’t know. I live in my head a bit and am pretty private.
  • Insensitive – Oftentimes INTP personalities get so caught up in their logic that they forget any kind of emotional consideration – they dismiss subjectivity as irrational and tradition as an attempt to bar much-needed progress. Purely emotional situations are often utterly puzzling to INTPs, and their lack of timely sympathy can easily offend.-This one is true. I am a horrible friend to come to for sympathy, especially if you are crying. I have no clue what to do with crying. I give support by helping out with rational advice, which isn’t what people want or need. And sometimes I do ignore emotional considerations because I am more focused on the reasons, the facts and the problem
  • Absent-minded – When INTPs’ interest is captured, their absence goes beyond social matters to include the rest of the physical world. INTPs become forgetful, missing even the obvious if it’s unrelated to their current infatuation, and they can even forget their own health, skipping meals and sleep as they muse. Yeah every bit of this is true. I am absentminded. I have forgotten to eat. I have missed sleep when I am into something. I am forgetful of things like schedules and plans. 
  • Condescending – Attempts at connecting with others are often worse than INTPs’ withdrawal. People with the INTP personality type take pride in their knowledge and rationale, and enjoy sharing their ideas, but in trying to explain how they got from A to B to Z, they can get frustrated, sometimes simplifying things to the point of insult as they struggle to gauge their conversation partners’ perspective. The ultimate insult comes as INTPs give up with a dismissive “never mind.” I consider this to be my worst flaw, but I usually catch myself doing it. I hate being condescending so when I catch myself I try to just tame that down. I do simplify a lot of my thoughts to explain to people because people tend to not understand what I am saying.
  • Loathe Rules and Guidelines – These social struggles are partly a product of INTPs’ desire to bypass the rules, of social conduct and otherwise. While this attitude helps INTPs’ strength of unconventional creativity, it also causes them to reinvent the wheel constantly and to shun security in favor of autonomy in ways that can compromise both.-Well this isn’t a big flaw for me. Just a minor one I’d say
  • Second-Guess Themselves – INTPs remain so open to new information that they often never commit to a decision at all. This applies to their own skills as well – INTP personalities know that as they practice, they improve, and any work they do is second-best to what they could do. Unable to settle for this, INTPs sometimes delay their output indefinitely with constant revisions, sometimes even quitting before they ever begin. Yeah I am to reign supreme in this flaw. I have practiced it well since a child. 

The flaw that has always got in the way of relationships and so forth is this lack of expressing emotions, hating emotional reasoning and lacking emotional compassion when needed. I think my emotional IQ is significantly lower than my IQ. When I am in an argument of course you want it to be about Facts and reasons not beliefs and feelings. It just makes sense if you want to get anywhere. Emotional reasoning isn’t valid in an argument.

But I get uncomfortable in emotional situations. Never know quite how to react to someone who is emotional. So my fallback is reasoning and facts and point how possible ways to solve the problem as I see it.

I feel like I have slowly developed in this area over time. Adjusted in a way that is more compassionate to the people around me. In a sense, people can be a very good listener. I am but it is because I will listen to them tell me their woes without having the least clue on how to respond. Using trying to think of something while they talk. And coming up with something pretty lame in the end. But I have learned people like people just there to listen to them and in that sense, I can do that.

Anyway I am seriously thinking of using myers briggs for some character development. I will label them… oh this is my ISTJ and this one here is the ISFP. I’d have to read all the profiles of course, but it could be fun, flaws and all. I’d use mine on a professor for example… that would be a great one for an INTP.


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